I know not to judge a book by its cover, but I'll be damned if I'm not going to judge people by their behavior!  I've been wrong assuming I knew about someone from their outward appearance -- more than once.  But when someone reveals themselves through talk or action, it's pretty clear what kind of person they are.  Some bad behavior can be forgiven, of course -- such as the diva-like head-tossing done to show off these dramatic drops of gold plated spears.  And only for that reason...